Divorce Counseling
It doesn’t feel fair that someone you gave your heart to can break it with 4 words.
It doesn’t feel fair that even after your heart has been crushed you would happily still take that person back.
You are devastated. You thought you had a good life.
Sure the marriage wasn’t perfect, but you thought it was ok. Things felt comfortable and stable.
You never thought it would come to this.
You wonder if he meant everything he said all of these years. Did he really mean it when he told you he loved you?
It has come to the point where you have begun to doubt everything and everyone. You are even beginning to doubt yourself.
Your confidence has been shattered and now is at an all time low because it feels like you were just tossed away.
Your marriage ending is the only thing you can think about. Most of your friends are married and seem happy. They don’t seem to want to spend much time around you in case what happened to you is contagious somehow.
It’s a lonely place.
To make matters worse he says he has already mourned the loss of your marriage, when you didn’t even see it coming!
He is hanging out with friends and seems to be thriving! He is even doing the things with them that you would have had to pull teeth to get him to do with you. It does not feel fair.
And it doesn’t feel fair that life can keep moving but you have to wonder where its moving towards.
You feel emotional, sad, confused, lonely, and scared to face a “new life” by yourself.
People say everything will be ok but you don’t see how.
You want to believe that there is light at the end of this tunnel.
That you can find a way to acknowledge this as part of your story. But also find a way to not let it be something that runs your life.
You want to find a way to make this whole gut wrenching experience make you better. To help you to be a happier, healthier, stronger person.
To find a way to focus on yourself and to grow as an individual, with or without a partner in your life.
You want to learn to appreciate yourself and be happy on your own.
To have new experiences and begin to live the life you want to live.
To wake up in the morning with a smile on your face. To feel alive. And to have the hope and the motivation to keep pushing forward in life.
You want to rebuild your life by your own design.
Because as safe and comfortable as life felt, you realize now that you were always putting everyone else’s needs first. And now you are wondering why. What was it all for?
Therapy can help during a divorce
You know the saying "happy mom, happy life" (ok, yes I took some creative license here). It turns out, it is more than just a saying. Do you know the number one indicator of children growing up to be healthy, well adjusted adults? If they have parents who are well adjusted. So this is bigger than you. It is also about them.
YOU TAKING TIME FOR YOURSELF HELPS NOT ONLY HELPS YOU, IT HELPS YOUR CHILDREN.
Counseling helps us accept the life we have; even when its not the one we chose. Therapy can help you to make sense of what has just happened. Therapy makes sense of life events that right now feel overwhelming and confusing. Counseling helps you to design the life you want to live and to start building that life from where you are now. To find community and support even after the loss of a marriage.
Divorce Counseling in Charlotte, NC
You don’t have to be broken hearted forever. Are you ready to take that first step to a healthier, happier you? I would love to help you start re-writing your life story. As a Cognitive Behavioral Therapist I am passionate about helping divorcing individuals rebuild their lives by their own design. Reach out today to schedule a consultation today at Charlotte, NC counseling practice.